@hazardwarning Sounds frustrating. Your cars sound so exotic to me though! I learned to drive manual with a late-80s Honda CRX and automatic with an early-90s Toyota Camry.
Women's pants don't use anything so sane as an inseam measurement here, but I tend to wear 31" and my wife's legs are longer than mine, so likely fairly similar. And I bet you've just explained why she likes the seat so upright.
Lucky thing we both mostly like everything in the car configured the same way, or swapping drivers on a shared car would get annoying fast!